sorry, I usually hang out in R&S , but I’m buying a house too, so, I have some house answers & some question, too!

Romans 8:26 And in like manner the Spirit also helpeth our infirmity:
for we know not how to pray as we ought; but the Spirit himself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered;" (even when you are so fed up, tired, frustrated , that you have no idea what to pray for? just pray. The Holy Spirit will pray for what you need.

If you’re not religious? just think positive! Like attracts like!!!

Also, in the city, if your kid wants a dog? you have to follow it around & pick up it’s doggy messes. I understand why people must do that. (Who wants to step in doggy messes?) I fully cooperate with that law. yet, on the same side, given the option (of country vs city life?). I would choose country living, hands down! and no cleaning up after your dog is just a nice bonus. : ) I’m a city walker person. I like to walk (& not step in dog mess…) I do not own a car, in the city! (bonus! no car insurance payments!) oh, no high taxes on your country property, either! Maybe you can afford to build something for your mom by all the tax savings?

Did you ever think to give your mom what would be you (& your husband’s room)? maybe you can sleep in the liv. rm. If you feel like you need to share special time? go to the basement? or bathroom? for just a moment, who would miss you? or! in the summer, you can camp outside- one tent for the child (he’ll think it’s super fun!) and one tent for you & your husband! : ) (I’d offer the mom the room because you own the whole entire house. She needs a place for herself. Your stuff, your taste, decorating, your rules are everywhere….)

It’s silly, I know, but I’m just offering some ideas! I , too, thought about the "perfect house" in the wrong location! yikes! We know people who did buy the right house in the wrong location. They are selling it now. Would you like it? The wacky neighbors came begging for spare change, knocking on their door at all hours of the day, AND at night too!!!! The plants were stolen off the porch! The guy was afraid they would vandalize his house, if he did not produce some recyclable pop bottles or spare change!
References :
We get the potential for free college! If we send our kids to public school!!!!! wow!!!!!!! This has been featured on TV!
https://www.kalamazoopromise.com/
http://www.sapphyr.net/smallgems/quotes-author-deepakchopra.htm

http://www.amazon.com/Seven-Spiritual-Laws-Success-Fulfillment/dp/1878424114
I suggest reading the book reviews….

My favorite Gandhi quote
"The greatness of a nation can be judged by the way its animals are treated."
http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/m/mohandas_gandhi.html
You may find somw words of wisdom to assist you here? maybe? I love this guy! : )

As far as the loft house, sure, it may be perfect for you, but it displaces what you had in mind for your mom…and it sounds like it is a commute for your husband?

My take is that both of these are not quite the *perfect* house just yet. Keep looking.
References :

There is a home in our city that’s not in the best neighborhood and right in the city but it works perfect because it had an extra living quarters for my mom which is very hard to find. There is another home that is actually half the price and very small because it’s a cool loft type set up but no space for my mom and in a rural setting but in a wooded community and hiking trails, lakes etc. I am in love with this little loft house and I try to convince myself it will not work but I really feel like it’s my home. My mom would have to try to sell her home to live nearby which could take who knows how long and my husband is not sure about work so they both say it should not be an option but I can’t seem to let it go……

We are running out of time and can’t really look anymore at homes and I like this city house but not the location so I feel like I have to buy a house but I won’t enjoy even walking around my neighborhood….what do I do?