By: ???

??? — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 06:36:59 +0000

uhmm... wow try focusing the relationship that you are in. And by the way everyone goes throught tough times with jobs so just wait it out.
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By: Claire H

Claire H — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 06:34:59 +0000

you should probably keep it to yourself.
bringing back some of those old feelings between you and him might just start some trouble for the both of you. not only with your desires to be with each other (which you made clear you wouldn’t do) but between your husband and you. you might cause more stress unintentionally.
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By: girlygirl

girlygirl — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 01:32:43 +0000

I think I might be in love with a guy from my past – I never asked him about his feelings for me back then?
Ok there’s this guy from my past (sorry this is pretty long so i’ll understand if you don’t have time to or don’t want to read it all but i feel all these details or important to my question. Anyway, I was 17 and he was 21 when we used to hang out, and I’m uncertain as to what his feelings for me where back then. See we started as friends and I thought he was cute and funny but back then when I was 17 I never really thought of him as more than just a friend. I’m not sure what he thought of me as tho because we did kiss once but I was drinking so I just acted like it never happened then next time i saw him. He confused me tho because he never actually told me he wanted to be bf and gf but he’d invite me to go places with him and then once he’d seen me riding around with a guy that I liked alot and he questioned me about it afterwards. Actually he didn’t question me about it, he sort of commanded me not to do it again which made me mad. His exact words were, ‘You shouldn’t got riding around with that guy, you should only go rididng around with the guy in the white and gray truck’ (which was the color of his truck he had back then). Well since I didn’t consider him to be my bf, just a ‘friend’, I just laughed off his comment then he didn’t say anything else about it after that. I of course continued to go riding around with the other guy because, well, I liked him but that didn’t work out for several reasons. Anyway back to my guy ‘friend’ above, only other time he suggested something that i considered to be more than just friends gesture was when me and 2 of my friends (which are girls) were at this guys apt. and he was there with 2 of his friends (which were guys). Anyway, one of my friends hooked up with one of his friends that night and us 4 were just talking. Then my ‘friend’, the guy in question, gestured for me to go sit beside him, but I wasn’t really comfortable so I shook my head no. He didn’t say anything after that in then after a few minutes he just got up and walked into the next room which was the kitchen. He started washing his dishes without saying anything at all to any of us. I turned to look at him, his back was towards me and asked him if he needed any help and he just said, ‘No, I’m fine.’ He didn’t really talk much to me rest of the night and after a few minutes we, my friends and I went home. I was sort of wild back then, wasn’t really looking for a serious realationship with anyone, but I’m thinking maybe he was, but not sure. Any, he’s back in my life now, actually he’s my landlord now, it’s so weird, just happed that way and we’re both married. I know I’m gonna get alot of criticism for this but my relationship is pretty unstable, been this way for a couple years now despite us trying to work it out – Hubby’s told me point blank that we’re not gonna make it so now this guy’s back in my life and he’s married but has sort of made it obvious he wants to be around me as much as possible. He’s been coming around alot to do some remodeling, which i told him really wasn’t necessary, but he insists on going ahead and doing this. Hubby’s not happy that he comes around so much but I assure him that nothing’s going on between us, and it isn’t and hasn’t. Well, the more I see him, the guy from my past, and talk to him the more I start to have feelings for him. I’d really like to ask him about the feelings he had for me back then but am hesitant to do so becuz we’re both married. We’ve already talked about stuff from the past, when we used to hang out but it’s never gotten to the point that we start talking about feelings and stuff like that. Should I keep these questions and feelings to myself or should I let him know about them? I JUST WANT TO MAKE IT CLEAR THAT I WOULD NEVER CHEAT ON MY HUSBAND. IF I KNEW FOR A FACT THAT I DIDN’T LOVE MY HUSBAND ANYMORE AND THAT I KNEW FOR A FACT THAT IT WASNT WORKING BETWEEN US, THEN I’D ASK HIM FOR A DIVORCE BEFORE MOVING ON, as my parent’s divorced because of my mother’s infidelity and it was hard on everyone around, esp us kids so there’s no way in hell i’d ever do that.
Just wanted to add how it was that he came to be our landlord, k hubby got transferred to town where he lives, due to his job and it’s a small town, so we, guy from my past and I ran into each other a couple of times. Anyway, hubby lost his job and hasn’t been able to find another one and I was struggling to pay the rent and bills on my own so i started looking for a cheaper place, ran into this guy from my past and mentioned to him i was looking for a cheaper place and he offered me his duplex for rent at a cheap price. So since it’s the cheapest place around here, we’re stuck until hubby can find a job or i can’t get a raise.
I messed up on details I added, meant to say, we’re stuck until hubby can find a job or until I get a raise – which I don’t see happening anytime soon.

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